Fulfillment, as defined, is the achievement of something desired, promised, or predicted. When we think of fulfillment, especially as singles, it’s important to remember that this is not a stage of lacking. It is a phase in life filled with purpose, potential, and promises of God. The Bible is full of examples of singles who achieved great things—Apostle Paul, John the Baptist, Jeremiah, Anna the widow, and Ruth, who later married Boaz. Their lives were full of purpose and accomplishment, not limited by their marital status.
*4 Points to be aware of in finding fulfillment in singleness*
**Understanding Who You Are**
To find fulfillment as an individual, the first step is understanding who you are. While your identity may be shaped by your biology, culture, or nationality, true fulfillment comes from knowing yourself beyond these labels. Take Apostle Paul, for example. He was once Saul, a persecutor, but after his encounter with Jesus in Acts 9:1-5, he came into the fullness of his true identity and purpose. By Acts 13:9-13, we see the Apostle Paul emerge, fulfilling the mission God had for him. Similarly, as a single person, you are not defined by what you don't have, but by what God has placed inside you.
Ask yourself:
- Who do I want to become?
- What am I passionate about?
- What are my dreams?
**Don’t Put a Pause on Life or Living**
Far too many people put their lives on hold, thinking they need to wait for marriage to achieve their goals. This is a mistake. Marriage is a blessing, but it is an addition to the purpose and destiny God has already placed in you. Don’t delay pursuing the dreams, desires, and goals God has given you. God didn’t intend for you to wait around in limbo. If He has given you the ability to do something, do it now. Don’t fear becoming “too accomplished” or overshadowing a future spouse. The Word of God promises in Isaiah 34:16 that none shall lack their mate because the Lord has commanded it. Trust that God will bring someone who complements and enhances your journey, not hinders it.
**Keep Your Faith by Encouraging Yourself Daily**
Keeping your faith strong during singleness requires intentional effort, especially when it feels like you’re at the end of your rope. But faith will carry you further than your own strength can. Isaiah 54:2 tells us to enlarge our tents, meaning to expect great things from God and expand our faith. Remind yourself daily that God’s plans will come to pass in their perfect time.
Singleness can sometimes feel lonely, but remember: you are never truly alone. The void that often drives people into rushed relationships can be filled by a deeper relationship with God and yourself. Guard against this by focusing on God’s promises and living fully in the present while planning for the future. Love yourself, because you will attract who you are. Matthew 22:37-39 says we should love the Lord our God with all our hearts and our soul, then love your neighbor as yourself. You can't give what you do not have, when you love God and love yourself you can share that love with your future spouse and people around you. Remember you are wonderfully made, so live in that confidence. Don’t let singleness affect how you present yourself to the world. Look good, carry yourself with dignity, and trust that God’s timing is perfect.
**Surround Yourself with the Right Things and People**
The people and things you surround yourself with play a huge role in how you perceive your singleness. Be mindful of the influences around you—whether it’s social media, entertainment, or even well-meaning friends and family. The content you consume can either make you feel desperate or confident in your season of singleness. Set healthy boundaries if needed, especially with those who unintentionally put pressure on you with phrases like “This year you will marry” or “Your time is coming soon.” While they may be expressing love and support, these sentiments can sometimes lead to feelings of inadequacy or frustration. Speak up, set boundaries, and seek God’s wisdom in handling these interactions.
**Singleness Is Not a Disease**
Lastly, singleness is not a problem to be solved. It is not a curse or a ticking time bomb. It’s simply a chapter in your life, a stage filled with potential for growth, discovery, and fulfillment. You are not a charity case, a disgrace, or a problem to be fixed. You are a whole person, and faith in God and prayer to Him will guide you in fulfilling your purpose in this season and every season to come.
Trust God’s plan, seek His direction, and find fulfillment in the present, knowing that your future is secure in His hands. You are enough—right now, as you are. You are not forgotten.
Hebrews 4:15-16 NLT
[15] This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. [16] So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.
https://bible.com/bible/116/heb.4.15-16.NLT
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