Raise That Child

*Raise That Child*

Dear Honourable Mother,

It has been a while yes, I know but I hope and believe you have been doing great and your child/children are doing wonderfully well.

I want to encourage you to raise that child/children. Often times when the duty of parents becomes the duty of a parent you feel all overwhelmed by the demands and the whole parenting and what you need to give or get to balance.

This might actually mean letting go of your social life, postponing or juggling career, ministry, business with parenting. It might mean having to cancel business or life appointments to attend to school meetings, dentist, doctors, school play, to follow them on trips, to go for registrations.

It's a lot of sacrifice if you are a honourable mother or father. It may mean being very careful about the relationship you keep, your social gathering.

Raising a child doesn't just happen you gradually ease into it even through the ups and down.

Don't stop doing what is right in raising that child, yes some times it may seem like all walls are closing on you, it may look like you have no exit cause there is no help.

That shouldn't stop your determination to raise that little being to become a great person to themself, the society and gladden the heart of God.

Another relationship just hit the rock🤦🏽‍♀ because the demands is making you move away from being the honourable parent you are or want to be or it could be something else. Don't beat yourself up about it, the best is on the way that shouldn't stop you or your focus.

Today dear Honourable parent raise that child, as you raise that child be who you want to be.

You are still very important you are an original VIP and you are doing really great.

*Be Inspired by His Word ©*

Honourable Mother

Dear Honourable Mum,

It's been a while since you heard from me. I know but I believe you are keeping well.

This is to encourage you..

There are times when you just have to make necessary budget. I mean in spending, buying and saving you just need to sit down and take a close look at what you have to do, what you are doing, what you want to do and what you will do.

It takes a lot of courage and direction. It takes a lot of foresight. In fact it might mean letting go of some things and embracing some things because that is the visible way your imagination can come to life.

Whatever you do, never give up..
Whatever you do never right yourself off..
Whatever you do never box yourself up in boxes that exist or are imaginary..
Whatever you do never curse your existence or the existence of those angels depending on you.

As it is often said you are stronger than you can imagine but let me pry a bit into your imagination and sense the Most high God is your strength.

So you are not just operating on limited strength but divine strength.

So what is that goal you desire..
What is that career you want to pursue..
What is that passion and calling that keeps you awake day and night..

Don't give up on them..

Yes there might or there will be challenges but believe in God and trust His ability in you always.

Take steps of faith..

Yes you will testify, wipe those tears away..
As Hannah rejoiced you will rejoice..
As Jabez cry was heard and his situation changed yes yours will change for the best..

Believe in the power of God in you and the word of God that release power into you daily.

Yours In Christ
Lpjthoughts

Be Inspired by His Word 2019©

Single Parent Standing against all odds.

Single parent is the term used to describe a parent raising a child or children alone either by taking sole responsibilty of the child's well being or by receiving some contribution from the other parent. In most cases the other party seem to be at the bottom of the page in the chapter of the child or children's life.
The Widow of Nain was a single parent as result of her husband's death Jesus didn't hold back on raising her child;
"One can be a single parent as a result of death of one of the parents, seperation of parent, domestic violence, divorce, rape, sour relationship and by choice. It is not an easy journey except God grants one courage and grace.
And it came to pass the day after, that he went into a city called Nain; and many of his disciples went with him, and much people.  Now when he came nigh to the gate of the city, behold, there was a dead man carried out, the only son of his mother, and she was a widow: and much people of the city was with her.  And when the Lord saw her, he had compassion on her, and said unto her, Weep not.  And he came and touched the bier: and they that bare him stood still. And he said, Young man, I say unto thee, Arise.  And he that was dead sat up, and began to speak. And he delivered him to his mother.  And there came a fear on all: and they glorified God, saying, That a great prophet is risen up among us; and, That God hath visited his people.  And this rumour of him went forth throughout all Judaea, and throughout all the region round about." Luke 7:11‭-‬17 KJV

A single parent does what is meant to be done by two people. Infact the sacrifice paid towards this is more than what words can explain. In as much as some society and church frown against such its so rampant in our midst and can't be overlooked.

Common judgement against single parent is that they were/are lose or its their choice to have found themself in such situation. In as much as this may be some cases it is never always the case.

As single parent you need to set your priority right. Especially when it comes to raising the child(ren) up. Some fondly refer to the other parent as a living dead because he or she has no vital contribution in the child's life. I believe this is very wrong, every man on earth as an assignment to fulfill which can easily be entangled in another man's destiny.  The most realistic part of this is some people's assignment in another person's life is a relationship that leads to production of another life afterwhich the relationship cease to exist. This doesn't warrant unnecessary stigma on the other party such as referring to them as dead while they are still alive.

We live in a society where people use this term(single parent) to benefit themself. Such as some who reside in countries where financial and social help are given to individuals who are raising children single handedly. Married folks are often seen claiming such benefits even when they are Born again Christians  "Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new."2 Corinthians 5:17 KJV there Bible doesn't apply to that aspect of their life. In as much as you are married and claiming such benefit you are gradually claiming to eventually become a single parent. You are what you confess even if its only written in black and white that you are a single parent for benefit sake yet you are not it's advisable to actually stop. The Lord who is Jehovah Jireh will provide for you without that benefit if only you believe in Him truly.

As part of the body of Christ if by any means we have people of this status (single parent) in our midst judging them or secluding them due to that is wrong. If we do that we do not encourage the love of Christ. At the sight of God thesame love God has for whoever is not in this situation He has for whoever is in this situation. One constant thing in life is change the fact that someone is a single parent doesn't mean they will remain that way forever. If you are chanced to render help to people in this situation do it with one love let the lord reward you.

A single parent should be able to prioritize his or her time in raising a God fearing child just as it applies with parents who aren't single.  " Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6 KJV
Your work or ministry should not stop you from raising that child up with the fear of God. A parent is the first teacher a child has and mostly what a child becomes in their adult life is partly what their parent(s) was. Do not take the anger of the absent parent out on your child it is wrong because that child is innocent. It's very difficult to find a court where a child will be judged for their parent's mistake or deed except the child is involved.

Seeking the help of God at all time is a vital key in being a successful parent. Do not rely on your ability make sure you carry God along make Him the fore front runner of your family life. As long as God is involved and He takes centre stage the devil will be rendered powerless over your parenting. As every parent face challenges a single parent face more challenges especially when the other party is out of the picture. One thing you should always remember is to involve God who alone is the companion that is ever present.

Single parenting should not stop you from fulfilling your ambitions. There has been cases where parents study same time as their children and they still achieve their goal in life. If you have an ambition never give up on it. It's fulfillment may tarry but trust God to bring it to manisfestation.

Moving on with life either by settling down into a relationship is always a giant step to take in single parenting. One important thing is be plain never hide your child(ren) or spoil the other parent's image just because you have found someone. There was a scenario of a lady who had a child in her village she came to the city became born again. She only went back to visit the village once in a while to see the child and leave money for upkeep. A christian brother found her and she got married. She never told the man she already had a child. After some years the husband travelled and on his way back he branched at the village to see his in laws. When the lady's mother saw him she was happy and said tell your wife her son miss her a lot and i am getting old. Now that she is married she can come and take her child so they can leave together. The husband nearly fainted but composed himself. When he returned back to the city he asked the wife who was more than shocked. This nearly ended the marriage if not for God and intervention of the church.

One other thing that can lead to temporary single parenting is distance between parents. Either they live in different countries and the child lives with one of them. In this case the devil use different strategies to keep them that way or cause them to even divorce eventually. That is not the will of God. I pray that any one in this situation God in His infinite mercies will open the book of rememberance and cause the distance to be a thing of the past. Never give up pray to God nothing is impossible for Him to do. He will not cut the expectation of the righteous do not use this as opportunity to cheat on your spouse God is aware of your burning emotional and other needs and He understands how much you can handle.

Single parenting is not a disease its a temporal state in an individual's life and change of status can happen anytime. As part of the body of Christ we need to show love to one another. Let us leave the holier than thou attitude and face what is more important being an encourager and a channel for your brothers or sisters in this situation to keep their faith. Be strong for them and not forget that they are important to God just as everyone is.

There are successful children raised by single parents so the myth of single parenting leads to bad parenting should not be encouraged. Examples of some successful people raised by single parent are;
President Barrack Obama of USA was raised by his mother his father left when hewas 2years old.

Stephen Crabb a conservative MP (UK) was raised by his mother when his father left.

David Lammy Labour MP raised up by His west Indies immigrant mother.

Single Parent be encouraged its not an easy journey, its not fair just as life generally can be unfair but do not use that excuse to limit the potentials God had deposited in you to raise wonderful and God fearing children. With God on your side you can do it. Shalom

Another Chapter In the life of an Honourable Mother

Tracey is a mum of two married to John a Bsc holder but ambitionless man.

Tracey like any other woman in this position ready to keep her home works her butt off in order to provide for the home. She is a mother, father, wife, friend, teacher and whatever you can think of at the same time. She never allow her husband's lack of ambition to limit her from caring for her family.

One day, after years of just being there as the man of the house, John packed and left the wife and kids never to look back. It was a difficult time for Tracey as she couldn't manage working the hours she does and still look after her kids.

Living in a western world she feared the worst like the authorities taking her children into care if she can't look after them. She reduced her hours at work which means her income was reduced as well.

She started using her talent as a pianists to organise after school activities for her kids. After some months of excellent performance in school music classes, other kids started enrolling. This was after many nights of sharing the last meal in the house between her two kids while she goes to bed hungry crying to God almighty.

She questioned God! Every time she read Psalms 121 till it became an anthem to her as she commited the verses to memory and personalise it. One day when her kids were chosen for awards and she was there to cheer them up. As the first child was receiving one award the other was being called for another award. On getting home those kids said "mum you deserve this award we only took them on your behalf because you taught us more than we were being taught at school."  with tears in Tracey's eyes she embraced her children weeping in thanks to God for His provision and guidance.

Some years down the line while her children were in the higher institution she enrolled for music professional degree as well as child psychology programme. She graduated same year as her last child.

Tracey a woman left to take care of two kids while their father left them now became a professional music lecturer as well as a child psychologist.

Does this story seem like yours? Do you identify yourself as or with Tracey?

It's been a while since i wrote to the Honourable Mother. What was Tracey's crime? Heaven knows!

Are you feeling overwhelmed by the gift of raising a child up on your own?
Are you being left out by the world around you? Do you feel like the whole world is crumbling on top of your head?

Unlike Tracey you don't have the courage talent or faith to move on.

Stop! No matter how difficult the situation may be as an Honourable Mother i want you to know that God is able. God will never give you more than you can handle. He will never leave nor forsake you or let your enemies rejoice over you.

Never see your child/children as a burden. The story of Tracey might or might not relate to you but many women/mothers suffer in silence. Many can take the pain even to their grave. This isn't the plan of God for you at all. His plans for you are to have a greater and better end.

Look at your child/children can you buy them in the market? God has placed a unique gift in each child the origin of their birth will never stop God from being God over their life. That child is fearfully and wonderfully made.

Honourable Mother you are doing a great job and Heaven alone can reward your efforts. Hang on to Jehovah all the way and you will laugh soon.

The Honourable Mum

Psalms 37:37 KJV
Mark the perfect man, and behold the upright: for the end of that man is peace.

Psalms 37:37 NKJV
Mark the blameless man, and observe the upright; For the future of that man is peace.

It's been a while since I wrote something to you.As I love to call you Honourable Mum (single mum as the world call them). You are wonderful and blessed.

I started this write up with the Bible passage above to encourage you. Although this note or write up is directed to Honourable Mothers but it is for any one who it ministers to.

The Bills are pilling up, the light is gone off,  the kids are off school, the storage for food is becoming empty. Rumours are going like wild fire "she isn't good for anything". Your health is shutting down, tears keeps dropping endlessly.

I can keep writing the list, right now you feel like giving up. You don't see the future because the tears has made the vision blurry. 

Things are becoming hard day by day. You feel like the clock should stop. You feel like God is not there again. Your faith is becoming very very shaky and you are very weary.

You constantly feel like your business is going out in the air almost everyone knows what you are going through. It's becoming hard to hide the tears behind your smile.

Ma'am you are wonderful (American accent) you are strong, you are the one that keeps the faith on. It may be difficult but just hold on to your faith.

Let them keep talking of how you are nobody now but you will be somebody tomorrow.  They didn't create you neither do they own the key to your destiny.  God has given you those gifts, that gift because He believes you will function well with them. Giving up on them(children) or gifts is not the way out. You must fight on, as in carry on believe you will get there.

You are almost there, your years are not wasted don't listen to what people say about your years. How you define your years is exactly what they are and don't be negative about your past. That past is what God has used to build your muscles in order to face the future.

Yeah look back into the years of tears, years of Loneliness,  years of lack, years of disappointment. No one ever saw you through but God did see you through because He is your Helper, Father,  Strength,  Pillar, Shield, Comforter,  Creator, Deliverer, He is God.

The passage above says mark the perfect man and Behold the upright for the end of that man is peace. 
Who is a perfect man/woman?
You are a perfect woman/man yes because He who created you is the God of perfection because He is a perfect God. In God you are perfect forget about the years that's gone face tomorrow with HOPE, FAITH AND DETERMINATION.

You are wondering, How am I gonna pull through? The burden is becoming too heavy for me to carry. Have you forgotten what The word of God says in Matthew 11:28 NKJV"Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."

The responsibilities is becoming more day by day tomorrow doesn't seem real to you. You are living from hands to mouth. God's got a plan don't give up. You think but God aiint gonna come down but hang on He will send helper of destiny. 

Don't give up on the gift in you, your career, do more for yourself. Those children are gonna ask you one day mummy why did you give up that is if you give up. They are gonna thank you one day if you allow God to fight for you and you make use of what you have. You are not useless utilise the potentials in you. You Inspire them(Children ).

One thing you need to do and must do is believe in God and cast all your cares unto Him. God isn't man He cannot be mocked, He will reward you that is if you have FAITH.

SO TO THAT MOOMA, MUM, MOTHER, MAAMI, MUMMY OUT THERE ALL YOUR STRUGGLES ARE COMING TO AN END.  HANG UNTO JEHOVAH JIREH HE WILL PROVIDE THERE IS A WAY. YES!

YOU ARE A HONOURABLE MUM

Honourable Mum II

To that wonderful mother,

That man claims to love you and wants to marry you but your kids are giving him great and unpleasant concerns.

Infact He has suggested you leave your children with family members or your parents when you get married to him.

He was not like this when the relationship started,he loved your children but now he is withdrawn.

He says you mean everything to him but the but are those children or that child.

I want to ask was he blind or deaf when he saw or you told him you have children already?
At least Children are not terminal disease they are blessing.

Mothers you are HONOURABLY BLESSED AND ADORABLY FAVORED.

If a man wants to marry you and give excuses about your children please go and pray again.
You might be far away from the right man for you.

He loves you but can not stand your child/children that is dangerous.

Those children matter a lot.

This is a message to all Mothers that have children whom they are raising up by themself.
This might be as a result of you being a widow, a rape victim, a relationship breakdown.

Whatever may be the cause please do not create means to be cursed by those children in the future because of your choice of man.

Ask God for direction, the man that wil love you and your children will come if you hand it over to God.

Remember you are Honourable and very Adorable Mum.