SINGLEHOOD AND SECONDARY VIRGINITY

SINGLEHOOD AND SECONDARY VIRGINITY. ...

It can be hard to understand the topic above but some people will understand it at first glance while some won't.  Singlehood is the time of preparation as I like to refer to it. It is not the time of mourning or being scornful towards the married folks.

Singlehood is the time you must enjoy and maximise your potentials in the ways of the Lord.  This is the time when you must not allow anything that will stain your glowing gown before the Lord.  If you are single and still a virgin keep it that way till you are found or you find your spouse as the Lord leads.

It is essential we understand that there is time for everything as the word of God says in Ecclesiastes 3:1 also His word says He made everything beautiful in His Time Ecclesiastes 3:11.

That includes now when you are single and waiting or searching as it applies to sisters or brothers.
If you are single and not a virgin but now redeemed congratulations.  Because His word says in 2 Corinthians 5 : 17 He that is in Christ is a New Creature old things are passed away behold all things have become new. Yes you are new and you are now in the stage of secondary virginity.

The desires you felt before towards sexual intercourse outside marriage must stop having dominion over you. This can be done successfully by the grace of God and total determination of obeying God to the very end. That means you obey God when it's pleasant and when it isn't.

When your past flashes, tempting you to succumb to it you must have the boldness to say get thee behind me satan. Also you must have the assurance that God has a good plan for you according to Jeremiah29:11.

His joy will be your strength Nehmiah 8 : 10.  It can be a stressful journey you are doing all you can to stay focused on the plans of God but the flesh is waring against your spirit you need God all the time.

As much as the singlehood period is time to prepare,  its also time to develop your spiritual strength. It's time to reach out of your comfort zone don't be idle in His vineyard.  Whatever you find your hands doing do it well. You have a lot of potentials deposited in you and to whom much is given, much is expected.

You must not see your singlehood period as a period of distress in as much as that is what the enemy of your soul wants you to feel and see you must see and feel beyond that because your vision is renewed in Christ.

Challenges will arise but God is always there for you, you have already won that battle because you are in Christ. Remember Christ in you is the Hope of glory.

People might call you names, Biological clocks can tick but God is the orchestrator of time and you can never limit God within a scheduled time. He owns time because He created time and when the specific and appointed time comes who can stop Him? At that time, you are just the subject He wants to work on and that is when your set time is. Psalm 102:13. You are always the apple of His eyes.

Singlehood is not a time to start sizing up how good a sister or brother is in bed. Remember when you have sexual intercourse with someone you share your glory and theirs,  curses, blessing and so on. So let us say you tried paul today, selena tomorrow transfer of glory and curses and that includes all the other people you have slept with.

Singlehood is a time of enjoyment, a time of realisation,  a time of identifying what and who God has called you to be. Above all a time to prepare for your next phase of Life.

Guard your heart with the fear of God and wisdom to go about it will be deposited in you.

YOU ARE SPECIAL.

Singlehood is not a waste of time.

Single Brother or Sister it's like you are the only one left in your family, friends,  colleagues and community that is still single. Day by day you are growing from worrying to depression to deep sadness. You wish the hand of time could be turned back. You ask yourself what have you done wrong, when did you miss it. Even your ex-lover(s) are married, becoming parents and playing or being happy. You are contemplating if you should go back into the world, maybe being a believer is not good. You are not written off.

If you were to question God further you might not get an answer but if you live your life trusting God, you will glow from inside out in fact that might just be your break through code.

Stop living in self accusation, even if you were the cause of your singleness God can change it.  You can only change from accusing yourself and appreciating God for what He will do.

Start getting ready physically, materially,  spiritually and finicially for the task ahead of you. Stop depression of singleness  maximise this period doing things that will glorify God. Things you will have less, more or no time to do when you finally tie the knot.

You don't know why you just had to say to the sister or brother(your ex) that its not working out or its not gonna work out even though you wanted him or her so bad but you had to let him/her go. God was not interested in allowing you make the mistake of your life.
Proverbs 20:24 KJV "Man's goings are of the Lord ; how can a man then understand his own way?"

If God shows you the reason why He had allowed you to be single till now you will be thankful. Many rushed into marriage against God's will just to satisfy themselves and they are wishing deep down inside that they had waited for God's will. 

Do you just want to be a family person or married and within  one year you are filling for divorce. Alas! You  are back to square one even worse than were you began.

As you wait don't waste away, you want a man or woman who is the will of God. Are you preparing to be someone's will of God as well or you just want the other party to be all you want and you become a pain in their life when you eventually tie the knot.

Brother you desire a sister with the fear of God when last did you pray for your wife to be, do you fear God? You want a cultured lady, respectful , neat, educated are you cultured, respectful, neat and educated? Samething applies to you sister.

Genesis 24:12-14 AMP "And he said, O Lord, God of my master Abraham, I pray You, cause me to meet with good success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I stand here by the well of water, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming to draw water. And let it so be that the girl to whom I say, I pray you, let down your jar that I may drink, and she replies, Drink, and I will give your camels drink also--let her be the one whom You have selected and appointed and indicated for Your servant Isaac [to be a wife to him]; and by it I shall know that You have shown kindness and faithfulness to my master." When God is in it you will choose right.

Sister you desire a man spirit filled, good looking, Heaven conscious and so on do you pass this criteria or you fail them? YOU WILL FIT ALL THE CRITERIA OF YOUR OWN HUSBAND AND HE WILL FIT YOURS IF IT'S THE WILL OF GOD.

Don't go into sin because you are single.
1 Corinthians 7:2 AMP "But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband."

Singlehood is time of preparation not a wasting time. Marriage is not something you just go in for a month and say its over. Its a covenant,  which includes God and that is why you must involve God in it before you even go into courtship.

Prayerfully wait on the Lord Sisters and Brothers look for that missing bone prayerfully. Faith without works is dead, so while you wait and seek, put your faith to work.

Even though it seems like age is not on your side, God has a plan for you and your bone. You can not  lack your mate so don't engage in this saying"there is no wife or husband out there they are players and loosers" be positive.
Isaiah 34:16 AMP "Seek out of the book of the Lord and read: not one of these [details of prophecy] shall fail, none shall want and lack her mate [in fulfillment]. For the mouth [of the Lord] has commanded, and His Spirit has gathered them."

No one wants a depressed Brother or Sister..

A depressed single leads to an endured spouse in marriage.

It's not an easy journey but with God in it you will testify soon in Jesus name amen.

Single Lady.

Single sister!!!!

This is your time to be equiped before you sign that life contract called marriage or go into the Taster course called courtship.

The slogan I am single and I want to mingle though sounds fun but be careful so you don't TANGLE WHILE MINGLING.

Get busy doing profitable things not unprofitable things.
Ecclesiastes 10:18 NIV"Through laziness, the rafters sag; because of idle hands, the house leaks."

Stop getting miserable everytime you see someone walk down the aisle rejoice with them.
Romans 12:15 NIV"Rejoice with those who rejoice."

Stope tasting all waters or weighing them sexually to check if he will be good enough as husband. Selling your body so cheap would not guarrantee a marriage proposal.
Hebrews 13:4 NIV"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

You never knew about keeping the marriage bed pure before, it's not late to change and wait patiently. There is a reward for every deeds.

Being single does not classify you as a failure no. Do not stoop too low just to qualify for what is not in God's  plan for you.

This is the time you discover your inner self. This is the time you make all necessary changes where need be e.g. Cooking, attitude, presentation, spiritual life and commitment to God.

You are busy waiting for the man that will complete you are you incomplete? God made you in His image and likeness.

Don't start setting budget that is unreal. The man must be this, that and those all in one forgetting that the man is already in existence. It's not some scientific experiment or cloning business.

Seek the Lord dilligently. Ask for a discerning spirit so that you will not fall victim of a replica that the enemy of your soul will or might send your way while you wait without patient or prayer.

Single and busy checking Biological clock, Are you God?
Menopause! even at a tender age and still single,  God has never and will never fail. The term Meno-Pause is not MenoStop. When God is involved, you will overcome regardless of the tides of trials.

Single, yet to know your purpose of living you better start now. Marriage will not automatically tell you, your purpose of living.

Sister, you are single but your friend's hudband is the man of your dream. Infact you go to their house she tells you all she does even the last time her husband touched her. You help them baby sit when need be. You jump at the opportunity to cook for your friend's husband. He is not aware of your evil motive yet you want him so bad.
Stop! Stop!! Stop!!!

He is not yours, why do you desire a left over someone else's man?
That is not God's plan for you.

Sister you are just running from pillar to post, from herbalist to spiritualist to pastor. All your make up and toiletries are initiated with diabolic powers. You better renounce such because the consequence is bad.

Sister you are fervent, dedicated and sold out to God be strong and wait. You will be celebrated very soon.
Psalm 27:14 NIV "Wait for the Lord ; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord ."

Psalm 130:5 NIV "I wait for the Lord , my whole being waits, and in his word I put my hope."

Romans 8:25 NIV"But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently."

Psalm 38:15 NIV"Lord , I wait for you; you will answer, Lord my God."

Sister Patience in waiting is a blessing. While you wait for your bone be patient.

God in Heaven has plans for you to be fulfilled maritally to His glory.
Something comes out of waiting patiently on the Lord.©