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Friday 28 June 2013

Singlehood is not a waste of time.

Single Brother or Sister it's like you are the only one left in your family, friends,  colleagues and community that is still single. Day by day you are growing from worrying to depression to deep sadness. You wish the hand of time could be turned back. You ask yourself what have you done wrong, when did you miss it. Even your ex-lover(s) are married, becoming parents and playing or being happy. You are contemplating if you should go back into the world, maybe being a believer is not good. You are not written off.

If you were to question God further you might not get an answer but if you live your life trusting God, you will glow from inside out in fact that might just be your break through code.

Stop living in self accusation, even if you were the cause of your singleness God can change it.  You can only change from accusing yourself and appreciating God for what He will do.

Start getting ready physically, materially,  spiritually and finicially for the task ahead of you. Stop depression of singleness  maximise this period doing things that will glorify God. Things you will have less, more or no time to do when you finally tie the knot.

You don't know why you just had to say to the sister or brother(your ex) that its not working out or its not gonna work out even though you wanted him or her so bad but you had to let him/her go. God was not interested in allowing you make the mistake of your life.
Proverbs 20:24 KJV "Man's goings are of the Lord ; how can a man then understand his own way?"

If God shows you the reason why He had allowed you to be single till now you will be thankful. Many rushed into marriage against God's will just to satisfy themselves and they are wishing deep down inside that they had waited for God's will. 

Do you just want to be a family person or married and within  one year you are filling for divorce. Alas! You  are back to square one even worse than were you began.

As you wait don't waste away, you want a man or woman who is the will of God. Are you preparing to be someone's will of God as well or you just want the other party to be all you want and you become a pain in their life when you eventually tie the knot.

Brother you desire a sister with the fear of God when last did you pray for your wife to be, do you fear God? You want a cultured lady, respectful , neat, educated are you cultured, respectful, neat and educated? Samething applies to you sister.

Genesis 24:12-14 AMP "And he said, O Lord, God of my master Abraham, I pray You, cause me to meet with good success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. See, I stand here by the well of water, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming to draw water. And let it so be that the girl to whom I say, I pray you, let down your jar that I may drink, and she replies, Drink, and I will give your camels drink also--let her be the one whom You have selected and appointed and indicated for Your servant Isaac [to be a wife to him]; and by it I shall know that You have shown kindness and faithfulness to my master." When God is in it you will choose right.

Sister you desire a man spirit filled, good looking, Heaven conscious and so on do you pass this criteria or you fail them? YOU WILL FIT ALL THE CRITERIA OF YOUR OWN HUSBAND AND HE WILL FIT YOURS IF IT'S THE WILL OF GOD.

Don't go into sin because you are single.
1 Corinthians 7:2 AMP "But because of the temptation to impurity and to avoid immorality, let each [man] have his own wife and let each [woman] have her own husband."

Singlehood is time of preparation not a wasting time. Marriage is not something you just go in for a month and say its over. Its a covenant,  which includes God and that is why you must involve God in it before you even go into courtship.

Prayerfully wait on the Lord Sisters and Brothers look for that missing bone prayerfully. Faith without works is dead, so while you wait and seek, put your faith to work.

Even though it seems like age is not on your side, God has a plan for you and your bone. You can not  lack your mate so don't engage in this saying"there is no wife or husband out there they are players and loosers" be positive.
Isaiah 34:16 AMP "Seek out of the book of the Lord and read: not one of these [details of prophecy] shall fail, none shall want and lack her mate [in fulfillment]. For the mouth [of the Lord] has commanded, and His Spirit has gathered them."

No one wants a depressed Brother or Sister..

A depressed single leads to an endured spouse in marriage.

It's not an easy journey but with God in it you will testify soon in Jesus name amen.

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