HONOURABLE MOTHER...

When it happens, it happens.

Some plan it, some by circumstance, some it is as a result of their mistake and some it was never their fault.

I am writting about Mothers, not just mothers but the mothers raising children all alone without the help of the father. The society term them as  "Single Mother". I refer to them as "Honourable mothers". All mothers are honourable do not misunderstand me be you single or married.

When some people hear "single Mother" different thoughts runs in their mind. Oh she is a loose woman, she is bad, she could not keep her man, she has a bad behaviour, she is a disgrace to womanhood/motherhood. Oh she is a wonderful lady why her.
If you have or haven't had that thought I would say; try to burn yourself with the fire before you burn someone else yes then you will know what it feels like.

Some Honourable Mother are in that situation as a result of being a rape victim but kept the result(child). Some because they made a mistake. Some because they were jilted by their husband/spouse/boyfriend. Some because they were widowed at a young age.

Honourable mothers, plays the role of the dad and mum at thesame time plus they nurse their wound alone. They only get strength to carry on in God and well wishers around them. Standing afar and judging them will not help the situation.

I have read about a Honourable Mother who because the husband left and she could not handle it let all her guards down. She could not cope she kept reminding the child about his fathers irresponsible ways of life. She left what was important, Bringing up the Child regardless of what His/her father was/is doing. The boy ended up offending young and spending time in and out of prison. All because the man left and the woman could not cope.

Also I have seen a Honourable Mother who's husband left and never came back. She did jobs from one end to the other to pay Bills and make a livelihood for the Children and by the grace of God the children came out well infact one is a Member of Parliament and many more. He is not shy to say "my mother did all odd jobs cleaning to office duties to make me who I am even though My dad left and never came back".

So this message is to enlighten and educate us as community of unknown or known ignorance and stigma often placed on "single mothers(Honourable Mothers)". They are Human like you facing challenges of two parents even though its only one parent present.
I used to think only Mothers were "Single Mothers" until I met a "single Father" with 3children. He choose not to remarry just yet till the children get to certain age. He runs the family alone with the help of a Nanny. He is a "Honourable Father".

Some of us have them as brothers,sisters,friends or colleague. Let us embrace them with courage not demeaning words and behaviour. When we read or hear about a widow or widower with children seeking to marry a single or fellow widow/widower. Most society becomes judgemental about such Union.

Understanding how such people feel and the children matters a lot. They are not meant to be subject of pity or  ill treatment. Many of this Honourable Mothers are doing well in the society and they are even envied by Mothers who's partners are still with them. Some have used their past to get a glorious future for them and their children. Working two jobs,studying for better career opportuinity and still holding firm on God to sew them through.

To you "Honourable Mother" your hard work is not and will not go unnoticed just keep doing your best in bringing those children/child up. Though the father is late it does not mean you have to be late in your duties as a mother.  Has the father rejected that child/those children leaving you to take all the responsibilities? God is your strength, draw strength from God always and make sure you have/keep around you people that will encourage you.

Some days are easy to go but some are tiring, God sees all your effort. Never ever relent in bringing that child/ those children up in the way and fear of the Lord. The society might be against you but your maker is with you.

Honourable Mother, are you looking into settling down because you are still young or you need a companion. Pray about it, Never hide those gift(children). Make sure the person is ready to take your responsibilities as his. 
God has plans for you, He has plans for those Children/child.

He understands people have reffered to you in different ways both negative and positive but God has your best at heart. He wants the best for you. Let Him order your steps Always.

If no one has never told you before I am saying it to you now that YOU ARE HONOURABLE. It takes a lot of Courage, fear of God and love for that Child/Children to do what you are doing. You could have walked away.

Are you struggling being a Honourable Mother? You need to let go of your hurts and think about the pain you suffered while in labour to deliver that Child. Do not maltreat that Child because of His or Her Father. They are your Pride and Joy.

HONOURABLE MOTHER KEEP YOUR HEAD HIGH, KEEP THE SMILE, GET THE STRENGTH FROM GOD.
HE KNOWS YOU CAN HANDLE IT THAT IS WHY HE GAVE YOU THOSE GIFTS(CHILDREN).

Please note;
This note is not written to encourage divorce, pre marital sex or pregnancy that might lead to unwanted situation. It is to enlighten us on what Mothers in this situation deserve and to encourage Mothers in this situation.